There’s been a lot of debate recently on whether or not it’s okay for women to cry at work. Some call it a professional taboo, while others are rejoicing in the fact that women are able to share their emotions and even cry at work. Back in 2013, Sheryl Sandberg, COO of Facebook made famous by her book Lean In, said that it was okay for women to cry and share their emotions at work. But is there a point where emotions can go too far?
When it comes to emotions in the workplace, I am a firm believer that there is always room to get mad, sad, cry, and even get angry if it’s done in the right way. When you feel like crying at work, it’s okay to shed some tears. In fact, 40 percent of women and 9 percent of men have admitted to crying at work. Getting your emotions out in the open by crying isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
But for women especially, learning how to control your emotions can be a very helpful skill in a workplace dominated by men and the “don’t cry at work” mentality that so many of us have today.
Controlling your emotions at work isn’t easy, but if you can take these small steps, you’ll be able to get through your workdays in a much more focused way. Your emotions are telling you something, and you need to pay attention to them and perhaps take steps to change the situation. But you don’t have to let them run the show.
Jessica Miller-Merrell, SPHR, is an author, speaker, Human Resources professional, and workplace social media expert who has a passion for recruiting, training, and all things social media. She is the president and CEO of Xceptional HR, and a leader in the HR community with more than 12 years of industry experience. The author of Tweet This! Twitter for Business, Jessica was named by HR Examiner as the second most influential recruiter on the Internet and the seventh most powerful woman on Twitter. She is a columnist for both SmartBrief and The Huffington Post, in addition to Blogging4Jobs and Human Resources One on One. Jessica has been interviewed for professional articles in CIO Magazine, Entrepreneur Magazine, SHRM’s HR Magazine, and on CBS. Jessica earned a Senior Professional in Human Resources designation in 2008, and holds a bachelor’s degree in Anthropology and Business from Kansas State University. Originally from a small town in Kansas, Jessica currently lives near Oklahoma City with her husband, Greg and daughter, Ryleigh.